Transformation: What are you being called to Let go of?

If you’re in a season of change or in the midst of struggle and conflict that you are having trouble seeing your way out of, know this: you are not here to repeat the same old story. You are here to live a new one.

Transformation is not something that happens to you—it’s something that happens through you, when you choose love over fear, presence over reaction, and curiosity over judgment —moment by moment, choice by choice.

Transformation rarely happens all at once.

More often, it shows up quietly—moment by moment, choice by choice—asking us to take a deeper look at the thoughts we think, the roles we play, and the stories we carry. The question that keeps calling us is this:

What are you being called to let go of?

Letting go isn’t always easy, especially when we’ve grown comfortable in the old pattern. But transformation is not about becoming someone new overnight. It’s about becoming more aligned with what is already within us—our essence, the 'good inside,' our Christ nature, our inner light.

A Sacred Invitation to Align back to Essence - the Good Inside

There’s a beautiful passage in the Gospel of Thomas that reads:

“If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you.If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” — Saying 70

This isn’t about punishment or reward. It’s about alignment. When we bring forth what is within us—love, wisdom, compassion, truth—we experience a deep sense of peace, healing, and clarity. When we suppress or ignore our truth, acting from fear or habit, we can feel stuck, reactive, and disconnected.

Spiritual growth - greater wholeness - doesn’t stop at knowing the truth—we are called to live it. And one of the most powerful places we live it out? Our relationships.

Relationships: The Real Work of Transformation

Our relationships are not just emotional connections—they are sacred classrooms for our spiritual growth. They reveal our blind spots, reflect our patterns, and give us daily opportunities to practice love, truth, forgiveness, and grace. We are drawn toward people who stir up our needed growth.

But here’s the twist: it’s often the conflict that brings transformation.

When we’re in conflict, it’s easy to react from our old scripts—defend, blame, withdraw, or feel the need to control. But if we pause and get curious instead of judgmental, we create a space for real change.

Blame is often just a mask for unmet needs.

When we shift from “you hurt me” to “I wonder what’s really going on underneath this?”—we begin to uncover the real truth. Maybe it’s a need to feel safe, to be heard, to feel connected. And when we meet that space with love and curiosity, not judgment, transformation begins.

Letting go of the old and Creating a new story

My marriage is where my greatest challenge - and greatest growth has happened. I see so many old patterns within me that have come up and created conflict - and eventually led to divine transformation. It's not always easy to see the divine in the midst of a heated, messy conflict of miscommunication, assumptions, blame, sadness, fury. But those heated encounters do lead to transformation of old patterns and stories that are getting in the way of me showing up from essence - from the good inside.

The Practice of Letting Go

Letting go isn’t about erasing the past. It’s about releasing the grip it has on how you live today. It’s about seeing yourself and others through a new lens. And it’s something we practice again and again.

So, what are you being called to let go of?

For me, it was the old an old pattern of withdrawing, pleasing, or proving. That old pattern caused me to not be in truth, put what I think others want above the truth within me. It led me to make choices from a place of not-enoughness, jealousy, avoiding instead of having truthful, meaningful conversations and being afraid to share what I really felt. Here are some other old patterns that get in the way of being in our truth:

• The need to control others- instead of trusting each one of us is divinely guided and capable.

• A grudge, a judgment, or a fear - that takes away from being present to the love that is ever-present, here right now - even in the messy.

• The need to be perfect - that takes away from trying new things, failing, and trying again knowing this is how you grow and transform.
  

New Possibilities are on the other side of Letting Go

Whatever it is that you need to release, trust that something new is waiting to emerge when you loosen your grip on what was.

Lean in and Let Transformation Happen Through You

If you’re in a season of change or in the midst of struggle and conflict that you are having trouble seeing your way out of, know this: you are not here to repeat the same old story. You are here to live a new one.

Transformation is not something that happens to you—it’s something that happens through you, when you choose love over fear, presence over reaction, and curiosity over judgment —moment by moment, choice by choice.

You are already whole. Let your life reflect it. Pause. Breathe. Return to presence, there you are whole and have everything you need to take that next step forward in love, in light, in wholeness.

Want to explore this more?

I am speaking at Unity of Oak Park on Sunday, July 6, at 10am. Listen in on Livestream here or come in person!